May 28, 2009
Is she ever coming back?! BPD?
BigBArABo0m asked:
I dated this girl for 1 year and half, we have been on and off. She was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder…. This girl is very sweet, and so naive (She trusts everyone except the people who love her) I have witnessed so many things with her, she beat me up so many times, and I never touched her. Physical abuse, premscuity, Constant and continuous lies about everything, everthing, everything. I love her so much, and I dont want her to get hurt. She is on hardcore drugs, trashiest friends ever, they even beat her sometimes, she hooks up with like 5 guys at the same time. She basically have a gangster minset, and she comes from a very good christian family, they dont have any financial problems, and her parents are really nice people and they would do anything to help her out. and I tried telling her that all those people she is hanging out with are losers. If I am nice to her she would just smile and leave with another guy for days, if I tell her to leave me alone, man, she flips out, and be “I hate you, dont leave me” (typical BPD). last monday for example she wanted to talk, and she started bringing p the relationship issues, and then she attacked me (I got scars, bite marks, bruises, and she burned me with her ciggarette) and she was telling me “I got a boyfriend, I dont give a **** about you”!! I really dont care, I mean yes, she is playing all those sick jelousy games but I really care about her “Probably as a little sister who has so many emotional problems.” She was also telling me you either love me or hate me “again typical BPD”. Her dad called the cops when he saw her attacking me and she got out of jail yesterday, and since then i dont know if she is going to rehab or not. the thing is, is that she is a little one, she is 5.2, and am 6.3 but I dont wanna hit her, its disrespectful. Any advise?!! The judge told her not to have any contact with me although i didnt press charges..
I dated this girl for 1 year and half, we have been on and off. She was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder…. This girl is very sweet, and so naive (She trusts everyone except the people who love her) I have witnessed so many things with her, she beat me up so many times, and I never touched her. Physical abuse, premscuity, Constant and continuous lies about everything, everthing, everything. I love her so much, and I dont want her to get hurt. She is on hardcore drugs, trashiest friends ever, they even beat her sometimes, she hooks up with like 5 guys at the same time. She basically have a gangster minset, and she comes from a very good christian family, they dont have any financial problems, and her parents are really nice people and they would do anything to help her out. and I tried telling her that all those people she is hanging out with are losers. If I am nice to her she would just smile and leave with another guy for days, if I tell her to leave me alone, man, she flips out, and be “I hate you, dont leave me” (typical BPD). last monday for example she wanted to talk, and she started bringing p the relationship issues, and then she attacked me (I got scars, bite marks, bruises, and she burned me with her ciggarette) and she was telling me “I got a boyfriend, I dont give a **** about you”!! I really dont care, I mean yes, she is playing all those sick jelousy games but I really care about her “Probably as a little sister who has so many emotional problems.” She was also telling me you either love me or hate me “again typical BPD”. Her dad called the cops when he saw her attacking me and she got out of jail yesterday, and since then i dont know if she is going to rehab or not. the thing is, is that she is a little one, she is 5.2, and am 6.3 but I dont wanna hit her, its disrespectful. Any advise?!! The judge told her not to have any contact with me although i didnt press charges..
But you know, although she didnt contact me at all, and although when I think about it, I am like ” I dont that **** in my life”, I do miss her so much, and there is this thing in the back of my head that keeps telling me that she is coming back, but I know that I am just dreaming.
What hurts the most is that she ran out with those guys and she never ggave a **** about me?
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Nothing will ever change and you are so young.
For your own sake I think you must give up on her for now and concentrate on yourself. She doesn’t love you and is stopping you having fun and meeting girls who are not so toxic for you.
Her family will take care of her, she is not your responsibility.
Enjoy yourself and keep away from her.
my advice would be , why are you even still hangin around this girl ? she abuses you, treats you like dirt etc, that says alot about you and your low self esteem, you must feel that you cant get or dont deserve better, you have been treated like a doormat most of your life so now, your used to it. if you really want advice it would be to leave her man, sorry your in such terrible shape man, sorry about that.
INTERVENTION!!! Call Jeff Van Vonderen, or the lady Finnigan.
Having a loved one who is a BPD is EXTREMELY difficult. Not only is she having a tough time of her own dealing with it, but she is also hurting you. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to change her condition – only she can do that through treatment, and only if she is willing to. Because of this, you need to focus on keeping yourself sane and healthy, otherwise you could end up heading in the same direction.
Honestly, it doesn’t matter how small she is, if she is physically attacking you it is disrespectful to you, and it is harmful (i.e. the bruises, etc. you’ve received). Until she is able to receive treatment for her BPD, it might be in everyone’s best interest to put this relationship on hold. Let her know that you care about her and want to see her get better, but also that you’re not going to put up with being hurt by her for no good reason.
And, if she never receives treatment or improves her condition, then you’re better off going your own way after all – putting up with all of this for the rest of your life is not healthy and it will end up with both of you being miserable. It’s very normal to miss someone that you have loved and cared about for so long, but just give it some time and you may realize that you’d rather be without her after all, or that she has a different spot in your heart, such as a little sister, as you suggested.